Peace Begins to Break Out

[danieldwilliam]

In a small step towards normalising relations with Bluebird’s mother she came to collect Bluebird from the station this weekend.

 

This may not seem like much but it is the first time she has put herself out to facilitate my on-going relationship with Bluebird.

 

I will need to think about how to take this forward.

Comments

[andrewducker]

That's good news. I have a friend with a one-year-old whose mother is not at all well disposed towards him. They are trying to work things through, and I hope that they'll be able to reach a working agreement so as to save both of them too much stress.

[danieldwilliam.livejournal.com]

It is good news. As I say, it's the first time she has inconvenienced herself to help me out so that our daughter gets a better overall outcome.

It is important to try to move beyond the stage of thinging that if you lose, I win. When I ever I struggle with my relationship with my daughter's mother I think to myself, "There is a good chance that one of us is going to the other one's funeral"

The stress that is created by combative parents leaks out I think. I think children are able to work with parents who don't love (or even much like) each other but I think they struggle if they have to choose sides.